What if my spouse does not wish to practice sexual magic but I do?

We must always accept the will of others, nevertheless the Gnostic student must absolve to never fornicate, even if the spouse does not agree with the sexual mysteries. Sexual transmutation is still possible for the one who practices it, even though the other is not concerned with transmutation. Practicing in this way is not as effective, yet, it still contains tremendous power.

If any brother has a wife who does not believe (in sexual transmutation), and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her.

And a woman who has a husband who does not believe (in sexual magic), if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him.

For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: otherwise your children would be unclean (because they will be born through fornication), but now they are holy (because they will be born through the immaculate waters of the Holy Spirit).

But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.

For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband (by teaching through example)? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?

But as God has distributed to each one, as the Lord has called each one (some for self-realization, and some for not), so let him walk (according to his own karma and interior impulses). And so I ordain in all the churches. – 1 Corinthians 7:10-17

If the non-Gnostic spouse accepts that you will be practicing sexual transmutation, this is all that is necessary. However, if the spouse is very astute and absolutely rejects sexual magic, if he or she demands fornication, the situation gets difficult. In some cases it may be enough for the Gnostic to act as if he or she is reaching orgasm without actually doing so. Yet, if this is impossible, then the aspirant must define himself: either towards the self-realization of the being, or not.

As Paul states: If the spouse leaves, then let be so. If the spouse refuses intercourse and refuses to initiate separation, then the student may move toward divorce. Yet, divorce should only be approached after all other choices have been exhausted. One will gain karma for divorce, yet, there comes a point where continuing a relationship brings even greater karma.

In the end there is no rigid guideline for what one must do. Everyone has their specific karma they must work with. Only after the student has meditated very deeply on his or her problem should action in these matters be taken.